A good parent should not allow her to abuse herself verbally right?

I saw on my daughters my space that she puts herself down and has a bunch of emo , death and i told her to clean it up or she's gonna lose it and my friends say that's why its called my-space its hers not mine but i feel as if i have a responsibility to protect other kids from that kind of negativity and if its not going to be positive and healthy then it don't need to be on there right?A good parent should not allow her to abuse herself verbally right?
Exactly right. You're her parent, you can decide whether she is even allowed to HAVE a MySpace. (I'm assuming she's under 16.) Yes, if you don't like what information she's giving out about herself you have every right to tell her to take it off.





I'd suggest you sit down and talk with her though... there's a reason she's putting these emo things up there (apart from the fact that it's popular these days). Ask her if anything's going on she wants to talk to you about... she probably won't tell you anything, but at least let her know that you are available and interested in her life and you will be there for her no matter what.A good parent should not allow her to abuse herself verbally right?
She's expressing herself, your better action would be to ask WHY she feels this way about herself. Use your intrusion into her world to understand her better and strengthen your bond instead of pushing her further away. Telling her to clean it up isn't going to make her problems go away.


I have a 13 and a 14 year old, they talk to me about everything and I allow them privacy in return. If you found evidence of drug use or sexual behavior, that's the time to judge and help her and ask that she remove things for her own safety.
I agree with you. If there are signs of absolute negativity and depression on your daughter's site, you need to take action. Talk to your daughter, and if she won't talk to you, find someone she will talk to. What if all that negativity is a way for her asking for help? Maybe deleting isn't the answer....it is a way to see how your daughter feels. Making it more positive should be the outcome, not a deletion. You can take away her Myspace, but that wouldn't change the way she feels. Hope this helps and I hope you and your daughter will be happy!
You really need to sit her down and talk to your daughter. You have every right to go on myspace. What a terrible site. She won't find comfort there. I wouldn't even allow her to have it. She needs your help as a mother to get her out of this insecurity. This is your daughter. Help her and protect her. My daughter has low self esteem too. I try my best to build her up and give positive. Myspace won't do that. There is a lot of negative on there. I know because I was on there and checked it out for myself for my daughter. If i really wanted her on there. And I say NO WAY!!!!!





The best thing to do is be there for her and if she doesn't want you then find her a Mentor that will be there for her and help her through this. Being 14 to 17 were hard years for a young girl. be compassionate and kind. Don't yell at her if she upsets you. Just listen to her. As a mother you have to have guidelines with your daughter. I do give my 14 year old her privacy as well but if I see that something is not right I will step in. I have to do the best I can for a mother who loves her daughter
I say let her express herself, BUT be attentive to whats going on. If she begins to do things that are harmful, then as a parent put your foot down. Every child goes through phases, and unfortunately today's society has a phase of death and destruction. If you want to help at all, talk with her, but understand that she might retaliate. Just like we all do when its something we don't want to talk about.
I agree with you, I check my son's online stuff and require changes as well.





It's also about teaching children how to present themselves to the general public.





It's a public profile would you let your kids say those things at a grocery store/movie theater etc... ??





BTW - When the time comes for her to find a job there are allot of employers that check my space as a way to see who a prospective employee really is. People have not been hired based on what they have on on-line profiles.
protect other kids? how about talk to YOUR kid to protect her. WOW.


she obvioulsy need somebody to talk to. LISTEN.


help her. why are you worried about her being a negative influence. go be a positive influence to HER.
I agree somewhat but you need to talk to her or get her some help to find out why she is feeling the way she does. I wouldn't just tell her to hide her feelings. I'd try to help her to overcome them.
If she had sexy pictures of herself in her underwear would your friends say the same thing?





Of course it's your business how your daughter is presenting herself to her friends and also, strangers.
Maybe she needs to see a doctor if she constantly puts herself down and is negative. Unless she thinks that it's cool. Which it's not.
How about getting help for her self esteem issue. Cleaning up her my space page really isn't the issue here.
right!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think you are doing the right thing but you want to make sure that you are being gentle and considerate. Maybe sit down and talk with her? Make sure that she knows that you love her and are there for her. Kids don't seem to automatically know that. It helps to repeat it often.





I think you might have been too harsh. She feels how she feels. Try to find out why. It could be just hormones or something. We all go through periods of ups and downs. It's normal. Talk to her.





edit: I'm not a parent but I am a daughter. I would go in with love and comfort. If I needed to then I would lay down the law.


I would do it for her own protection and others too. She's a kid.
You should let her do whatever she wants, and support everything she does. Censoring her like this is only going to make her hate you for the rest of her life. But if your cool with never seeing her again after she's old enough to move out, go ahead and do whatever you want.
Leave her alone captain, otherwise you're invading her privacy.