What can a parent do when their 2 yr old misbehaves by hitting at daycare--but acts fine at home?

My child's daycare teachers report that my little one has been hitting classmates %26amp; them-ugh. randomly thru the day, no particular cause--off and on the last 2wks; one teacher in particular is starting to put pressure on me to come up with a solution, in that their only option is to redirect bad behavior. My kiddo is super bright and knows there is no real consequence, so he automatically redirects himself while.... grinning at the staff... in a smart-alec way ( i witnessed this once during pickup! lol). I don't allow him to hit or smart-off--we use the eye-level-warning .... then a timeout if happens again--solution at home if he acts up-which works. They cannot do this at school--timeouts are a no-no, per policy. How am I suppose to help them fix this, when I can't be there in the moment? What can I do to help this go away ? The change may be stress-- one teacher left a mo. ago-coll grad %26amp; a new one was hired 2-3 wks ago etc. Is this just a wait it out phase? help, a mom outWhat can a parent do when their 2 yr old misbehaves by hitting at daycare--but acts fine at home?
Well it sounds like he is misbehavior to get attention, even the negative attention seems to be rewarding to him since he is grinning at them and being a smart alec when he misbehaves. They have a couple choices. Provide a consequence that does not involve attention for misbehavior. One thing I have done in the past is when the child hits another student is to ignore the hitter, but give the child who got hit lots of attention and make sure they are o.k. and almost over due it while intentionally ignore the child who did the hitting (since he wants that reaction). Another option is to provide lots of rewards and attention throughout the day for appropriate behavior. You tend to get whatever you focus on, so if their focus is to provide correction and redirection for misbehavior and to effectively ignore good behavior then a child who craves attention is going to do whatever it takes to get that attention (misbehave). See if they would be willing to do a sticker chart or token system where at various points of the day he can earn stickers, positive praise and attention for good behavior, following directions, being helpful, being kind to others etc. Also if they won't use time out see if they will use the eye-level warning system that you talked about that often works at home... although without a back up consequence this might not be effective.What can a parent do when their 2 yr old misbehaves by hitting at daycare--but acts fine at home?
They have no other forms of punishment at this school? Like, no play time? He can't sit in a corner? Why did they drop this into your lap??
My daughter did the exact same thing, because she was an only child she received a lot of undivided attention at home, at school she wanted the same attention, didn't want to share the teacher, which caused her to act up, to get attention, and it worked! I talked to my child, by explaining the teacher is one person she has to take care of all the children etc... This bad behavior did continue until my daughter was about 4 by this age she could understand better. The major change happen when she hit a teacher AGAIN, so frustrated, this time my approach was different instead of mad, I expressed extreme SADNESS as I told her everyone thinks I'm a terrible mommy, it is my job (responsibility) to teach you right from wrong not to hit, smart off etc. etc. All the teachers say I am not teaching you right. The teachers and other children's parents are mad at me and think I am a bad mom because I'm not doing a good job teaching you right from wrong. I asked her, ';do I tell you its okay to hit etc.?'; she said ';no'; I said why do you do it, then I asked her to help me, show them that I do teach you how to properly act so everyone would stop talking bad about her mom. My daughter is 14 years old and is the most wonderful compassionate respectful, young lady, an A student, I'm so proud of her. Hang in there mom, stay strong.
That's really bizarre that they don't use time-outs or some other similar consequence. It's so effective, and yet a very kind discipline. That boggles my mind.





Absolutely go back to them and get them to come up with a solution (that you're comfortable with). They're supposed to be the experts, right?





I'm sorry not to be of much help. I do hope you work this out. If not, you might have to find a daycare that has a more logical discipline plan. Good luck and keep trying to work this out!