After a divorce or separation, when there are children involved, is the non-custodial parent?

supposed to become endowed with new magical, mystical traits ?





Are they expected to be any more entertaining and interactive with the children than they had been prior to the split ?





should they have to be worthwhile and non-stop fun in order for the children to continue to want to see them?





Just wondering.





thank you.After a divorce or separation, when there are children involved, is the non-custodial parent?
No.





But I also think the custody situation, particularly in the States, is terribly sexist and warped. 9 times out of 10 mom gets custody by default. Dad has to be exceptional and mom has to be mediocre for 50-50 custody. And the mother has to be a real piece of work for dad to get custody. When you have only such a limited time available you don't want to waste it fighting.





I think what happens is that when you only see your kid every other weekend you're so desperate to not be fighting with your kid and just want to enjoy them that you end up being the fun and exciting parent, the lax and anything goes, get to break the rules parent.After a divorce or separation, when there are children involved, is the non-custodial parent?
If they never see the child, then yes i think they should make their time with them worthwhile. My son hardly ever sees his father and when he does, his father acts as if he is ';going out of his way'; to get his son. He complains about driving an hour and a half to meet him, when we are driving an hour and a half too and it's not any more fun for me than it is for him. He then goes off and plays golf all weekend leaving my son with his 3 year old sisters to babysit and is expected to clean all day. When my son doesn't want to come over then he gets all upset, when he doesn't even see his son all weekend because he is out playing golf!! He is thrown off on his step-mom who doesn't frankly want to deal with him either.





They shouldn't be non-stop fun, but they should atleast try to make the best of their children's stay when they do come and see them.
Supposed to? Expected to? Should? No. But many do these things because they have the luxury of arranging their schedule to set aside time for the kids, the money to buy things and go places, and the freedom from the burden of discipline and routines,so the kids pretty much get to do whatever they want until the weekend is over and they have to go back home to Mom. In the father's case, he's called a ';Disneyland Dad.'; Why wouldn't the kids want to see him?