My 18yr old is going wild/crazy at college. As a concerned parent what are my options?

serious answers only. we have a daughter that has pretty much decided she is on her own now and does not have to answer to her parents anymore. my husband and i are very concerned.


she lives in the dorms and has unauthorized non college students staying over among other things.


we live in texas. since she is 18 years old are we powerless ?My 18yr old is going wild/crazy at college. As a concerned parent what are my options?
do you financially support her?





if so, you have a mad ace in the hole.





but if she gets good grades, and generally isnt a crack head, understand that some rebellion is normal, and kids grow up by their own rules more than your expectations.





if you pay bills, then you have power. just make sure you arent flexing it for the sake of flexing it, use it appropriately...My 18yr old is going wild/crazy at college. As a concerned parent what are my options?
Uhhgggg.. Aren't teenagers fun?





I have a 19 year old son in college that is living in the dorms. In our case, we don't have a lot of say because he is paying his 100% of his tuition.





In your case, if you are paying her tuition or even part of it, you may be able to use that as leverage. I would be careful though because pushing too much might cause he to quit telling you things.





As for the other person living with her, you can call the school to let them know. For all your daughter knows it could have been a fellow student that turned her in.





Good luck and remember a little rebellion is normal when they first get out on their own. Thankfully, my son has calmed down his second year at school. So, there is hope!
you are not powerless if you are paying for any part of her education. Tell her if she chooses to act like this and wants to be on her own then she can pay for her own education. It saves you money and then you don't have to worry about her. Also, sometimes parents are better off not knowing what their children are doin at college.
Yes, if you are paying for her education you are not powerless but to some extent you can't control her actions either. At 18, she needs to accept the consequences of her actions.





I would give her a warning. Watch her grades. If she can't use school for education, you won't pay for it. Let her decide. Of course, that means she could come back home and really make things difficult for you unless you can boot her out.


It's not worth the hassle if you know she's doing these things. I wouldn't pay for it.





The reality check is when they don't have money. Don't give her any.
nah if you pay for her tuition then tell her that you will cut her off if she continues the behavior


but all college kids act rebellious at times because they are finally free and have no one to answer to


but if her grades are good and she's not inti hard drugs, just tell her to calm down a bit and don't cut her off
if you are paying for her schooling or dorm, than you are not powerless, if not, then there isn't anything you can do about it